Interview by Candy Reding & Passion DzengaIn 1986, Mrs. Elfriede Sinester founded the Mi Oso Es Mi Kas Foundation, a groundbreaking initiative that became the first center dedicated to supporting girls and teenage mothers in Amsterdam South-East. What started as a safe space for Surinamese and Antillean young women in the Bijlmer has since evolved into a powerful, cross-cultural organization that provides education, housing, guidance, personal development, and parenting support to women from all walks of life. The foundation, which closed its doors in 2007, was instrumental in addressing the needs of teenage mothers in the Bijlmer, offering them opportunities to build brighter futures. Mi Oso Es Mi Kas also left a cultural mark, hosting annual festivals, organizing international exchange programs, and establishing a celebrated African ballet dance group. Among its many accomplishments, the foundation launched the first female Kawina band, which proudly bears its name.We had the chance to sit down with Giorgio Toppin, Marina Toppin, Marjorie Toppin and Horees Augustuszoon, who are about to share their journey through an exhibition and documentary on February 7th at Amsterdam Stadsarchief. Get familiar with this story of resilience and empowerment.Could you tell us a bit more about the foundation - how it started, and why it was important to come together and create this community?The foundation was started by Elfriede Sinester. Initially, it was meant to help teenage girls, but she began hearing about young girls who had become mothers and were washing their babies in sinks, unsure of what to do next. These girls weren’t receiving help because the system categorized them as too young for adult services but too old for teenage services. So, she started focusing on them. We helped them find housing, deal with bureaucracy, and navigate the system. We were a safe haven, offering immediate support when others wouldn’t. Many of these young mothers were cast aside by their families and needed a place to stay. Mi Oso Es Mi Kas stepped in to offer them shelter and support, making sure they had a place to go even if we had to work late to find them one.What was life like for these teenage mothers, and how did Mi Oso Es Mi Kas make a difference?Many of these girls were kicked out of their homes and had nowhere to go. They often wandered the streets with their babies, looking for shelter. Mi Oso Es Mi Kas provided that immediate support, helping them find shelter, navigate their paperwork, and connect them with other organizations that could help. We didn’t turn anyone away. We also offered education, workshops, and even organized fun events to give them a sense of balance and community. The goal was always to help them regain control of their lives and empower them to build a future for themselves and their children.The foundation mainly worked with Surinamese and Antillean communities in Southeast Amsterdam and very quickly addressed issues that affected the whole demographic of young mothers, not just people of black descent. What legacy do you hope Mi Oso Es Mi Kas left behind?The legacy we hoped to leave was one of self-sufficiency and empowerment. We taught the young mothers to be proud of who they are and not to be ashamed of their circumstances. Many of them felt stigmatized as teenage mothers, but we showed them that having a child didn’t mean their future was over. We instilled the idea that they could still pursue their dreams, go to school, and succeed. The legacy we’re most proud of is that many of the girls we helped went on to become independent, successful women with their own businesses, stable homes, and positive impacts on their communities. They’ve passed on the teachings of Mi Oso Es Mi Kas, and now, they help others in turn.How did Mi Oso Es Mi Kas encourage these women to take control of their lives?We taught them simple yet vital skills: how to manage their finances, how to talk to other organizations, and how to navigate the systems that often felt impossible to penetrate. We offered more support than just help finding shelter, our aim was to empower them. We treated them like family, made sure they felt welcome and helped them gain the skills they needed to manage their own lives. They didn’t have to wait for help; they got it immediately.What’s your proudest achievement from your time with Mi Oso Es Mi Kas?I think our proudest achievement is that we helped stabilize so many young women’s lives. They came to us lost and uncertain, and they left as confident, self-sufficient individuals. We were able to help them build a foundation for their futures, and many of them, like a lawyer or business owners, are now successful in their own right. We were there for them when no one else was. That’s the legacy of Mi Oso Es Mi Kas: helping people rise from difficult circumstances and providing them with the tools to succeed.It sounds like Mi Oso Es Mi Kas really created a community. How do you hope that community continues to thrive?The community that Mi Oso Es Mi Kas created is one based on empathy, love, and support. We had an open door policy - you were always welcome! This sense of belonging is something we hope the women who came through Mi Oso Es Mi Kas continue to pass on. We believe in a ripple effect - each of these women have the tools to help others, whether they’re family, friends, or even strangers. Mi Oso Es Mi Kas was more than just a foundation; it was a family, and that spirit continues to live on in the women we helped.It’s clear the impact has been significant. How do you see the ripple effect of Mi Oso Es Mi Kas continuing today?We see it in the women who’ve grown into community leaders, mothers, entrepreneurs, lawyers, business owners and more. They’ve carried forward what they learned and now share it with others. The legacy of Mi Oso Es Mi Kas is not just in the work we did but in how these women go out into the world and make a positive difference, whether that’s helping other young mothers or pursuing their own dreams. Our community continues to grow, and it’s amazing to see how the work of Mi Oso Es Mi Kas has inspired so many to keep going. The goal has always been to give young people, especially young women, a solid foundation to raise their kids confidently and to succeed in life, whether in education, business, or personal growth. These are all essential parts of the process.You mentioned earlier that you've had success stories. Are there any individuals who really stand out to you - people you helped who went on to become the best versions of themselves? Marjorie: Oh, there are a lot of stories. Sometimes when I walk down the street, I’ll bump into former teenage moms, and they’ll tell me how far they've come. Some have started their own businesses, and it's incredibly rewarding to hear their success stories. One girl stands out. She had a child at a very young age - around 16 or 17. Her family didn't support her much, especially her sister, who was in politics. Her sister looked down on her because she was a teenage mom and kept pushing her to become a lawyer, but this girl didn’t want that. We had a conversation, and I told her to follow what she wanted to do, not what anyone else thought. Eventually, she left law school and started her own business, which is very successful now. She even got into real estate. Mission accomplished!That's incredible! So many young people might feel like having a child means the end of their dreams. How did you help those who wanted to continue their education?Marina: The educational aspect was a big focus for us. We had a program that helped young mothers continue their education by providing childcare. We made arrangements so the teen girls without kids could babysit the children of the teenage moms so they could attend school or pursue academic achievements in school. It wasn’t just about education - it was about empowerment. We also emphasized the importance of having a diploma, especially back in those days when it was so crucial for women’s independence.It sounds like the foundation focused heavily on empowerment. You also mentioned helping people with housing. How did you help teenage moms who needed a place to live?Marjorie: Housing was a huge part of our support system. We had connections with the social housing system. When a young mother came to us, struggling to stay with her family, I’d write a letter detailing her situation and send it to the housing organization. We had a strong relationship with the housing officials, and they would often approve the request very quickly. Once they got housing, we continued to guide them for a year, helping them with financial literacy and responsibility, like paying rent and managing an apartment. This was an essential part of setting them up for success.It seems like financial literacy was a key part of the program. How else did you equip these young women to be independent and confident?Financial literacy was important. But we also worked on building their confidence and self-esteem. Many of the girls felt like failures because they had children young, and society had a stigma about that. We made sure to constantly remind them that they were not failures—they could still achieve whatever they set their minds to.Beyond education and housing, the organization also had a cultural component, right? You mentioned the African ballet and the first female Kawina band. Could you tell me more about that?Yes! We started with African dance and singing. The African ballet was the first of its kind in the Netherlands. The girls performed and even won awards. It gave them something to be proud of and helped build a sense of community within the center. We also had the first female Kawina band, which was a huge deal because the genre was traditionally male-dominated. The girls not only sang but also learned to play instruments, which was unique. One of their songs even became a hit in Suriname! It was amazing to see them gain confidence and recognition for their talents.It’s remarkable that music and culture played such an important role. You mentioned how their album became a cult classic. Is there anything else you'd like to share about that?The band was also called Mi Oso Es Mi Kas (named after the organization), and they went on to produce two albums. Their first album became a cult classic, especially in the Surinamese community. They performed internationally in places like Germany and Belgium. What was really special was that they were the first all-female Kawina band, which was groundbreaking. It was a source of empowerment and pride for the girls involved.So, from dance to music, it sounds like the foundation also helped young women express themselves artistically and culturally. How do you hope younger generations, who didn’t get the chance to benefit from this initiative before 2007, can create their own initiatives today?We hope they take inspiration from what we did - creating community spaces where young women can support each other. Right now, there’s a lack of community support for young women. Many organizations today tend to focus more on young men, but the girls are often left behind. Initiatives like ours were crucial because we provided a safe space for women to come together, share experiences, and lift each other up. It’s vital that younger generations continue this work, whether it’s through social initiatives, education, or cultural projects.You mentioned that today’s young women don’t have enough support. What do you think has changed since 2008, and what support do young women need today?Marjorie: The challenges are still the same - teenage mothers need support, but today there’s a lack of organizations focused on them. Unfortunately, many teenage mothers today face the risk of having their children taken away and placed in foster care. That’s a sad reality because we were always focused on keeping mothers and children together, providing them with the support they needed. There’s definitely a gap now. Many young women feel isolated and unsupported, and I think that’s something we need to address.There seems to be a bias where social initiatives focus on helping young men, and young women are often overlooked.Exactly! Young boys often get more attention because there’s a perception that they’re at risk of becoming involved in crime or violence. But the needs of young girls are just as important, especially when it comes to providing safe spaces for them. That’s why we started the first girl-centered initiative in the Netherlands. The girls needed a place to be themselves without fear of harassment or judgment.We wanted to give these young women a place where they didn’t have to perform or be something they weren’t. Mi Oso Es Mi Kas was a place for them to just be, to discover who they wanted to be in life and find ways to navigate their future with the right tools - without any judgment. It was like coming home, just like being at your mom's house. They’d come in, get a meal, and we’d all eat together in a communal kitchen. They could also talk to a psychologist if they needed. It was all about support.The idea was to create a space where they could meet others their age who were going through similar experiences. Young men were invited for special events such as open discussions about sexualty, gender roles and parenting. Because of the financial strain of the foundation they were always female focused.And it sounds like you really invested a lot of time and energy into this. Was there any financial backing for this work?Honestly, no. We worked on a shoestring budget. The pay was minimal - if anything - but we did it because we cared. People nowadays are more focused on getting paid, but back then, it was about helping, not about money. We worked long hours, often from 9 in the morning until 11 at night, and we didn’t leave until every woman was taken care of. It was demanding, but we knew it was needed.Even though there might not be an initiative like ours now, especially with the current climate of individualism, it’s crucial to have places that offer these kinds of tools and support. The system still fails to adequately support young mothers. They still need a space where they can go and get the help they need.Did the initiative provide accountability and support for the fathers?The families of the fathers often protected their sons and didn't hold them accountable. Mi Oso Es Mi Kas held workshops to address this and encourage fathers to take responsibility. There was a definite stigma and conservatism around having children out of wedlock, and sex education was still taboo in the 1980s.Did Mi Oso Es Mi Kas have a program for sexual education?They were developing a program to teach responsibility and awareness about sex and relationships, but it was cut short due to lack of funding.Did the organization discover anything about the teenage girls that surprised them?Yes, they discovered that 99% of the teenage girls they worked with had experienced sexual abuse, often incest and rape, leading to trauma.What inspired you to partner with the Amsterdam Stadsarchief and Patta to honor this initiative, and why is it important to do so now?The goal is to celebrate and highlight projects that have had a major impact on the cultural scene in Amsterdam at large. The initiative, Mi Oso Es Mi Kas, worked with many teenage mothers, young adults and children in the Southeast and had a significant role in the emancipation of these women. It's been nearly 20 years since the organization closed, and I think it's vital to highlight its impact now, especially as the city is rapidly changing due to gentrification. It's crucial for newcomers to understand the history of the area and why it developed the way it did.We're approaching the 20-year mark since the organization closed in 2007. The history of the city is changing, and we’re seeing a lot of displacement and gentrification. It's important that people living here now understand the foundations of the community and how it came to be what it is today. History shouldn't be forgotten, especially when it's tied to social movements that helped shape the local culture.The initiative played a key role in empowering young women, especially teenage mothers in Amsterdam Southeast. How does your current exhibition and documentary seek to amplify this legacy?The exhibition focuses on the timeline and celebration of the organization's impact, while the documentary goes deeper into telling the story of the women who founded Mi Oso Es Mi Kas and the experiences of the women who were part of it. The exhibition showcases the organization's work, but it would also be interesting to hear from the women who were involved and ask them what it meant for them to be part of such a project.What about the upcoming exhibition on February 7th? Will it highlight the importance of this work?Giorgio: The exhibition will be at the City Archives Amsterdam, running from February 8th until June 15th. It’s called The Treasure Chest Room and will showcase the history of Mi Oso Es Mi Kas through photographs, documents, and stories. We’ll also highlight some of the struggles the organization faced, including financial challenges, and why it eventually closed. It's a tribute to the incredible work that was done and will feature a documentary about my grandmother, Elfriede Sinester, who started the organization. It’s the first time that they’ll get to tell their own story in this way.How did you gather the materials for the exhibition? Was it from family archives?A lot of it came from Marina, who kept all the photographs and materials from the organization. She’s the keeper of the "treasure chest" of Mi Oso Es Mi Kas history. We also found some things online and through articles, but the bulk of it was in her collection. We had to narrow it down to fit the space and tell a clear story. It’s been a beautiful process of rediscovering these memories.It must be amazing to find these lost pieces of history. What’s been your experience in piecing this all together?It’s been both fulfilling and bittersweet. A lot of the physical things - awards, dance costumes, got lost or destroyed over the years. But seeing the value of what we had and how it tells this story, it’s clear that these things mattered, even though they’re missing now. The biggest shame is that the organization couldn’t continue, especially since we still see the same problems with young moms today.So, the exhibition isn’t just a trip down memory lane but also a way to inspire others, right?We hope that people who see the exhibition will be inspired to help others in their own communities. And it’s also a message to the government—to show that this work wasn’t "money thrown away." These women achieved so much because they had support. It’s about showing the importance of self-esteem, and the value of believing in yourself, no matter where you come from.You’ve mentioned the fathers of these children. How did Mi Oso Es Mi Kas address the role of fathers in the lives of these young mothers?We had a workshop called "Where is Daddy?" where we invited both teen moms and the fathers of their children to discuss their roles. It was an emotional process. Many of the fathers were also teenagers and often didn’t understand the responsibility of being a father. The workshops were meant to help them see that responsibility and understand the emotional impact of being absent. We even had a male trainer to guide these discussions, and it was amazing to see how quickly they changed. In just two days, their whole attitude would shift.It seems like the work you did went beyond just helping moms; you were helping the entire community.That’s right. It wasn’t just about the moms, but about everyone involved - especially the fathers. A lot of these young men didn’t have role models, and nobody held them accountable. To see them change, to see them start taking responsibility, was incredibly satisfying. It was a reminder that people can grow and change if they’re given the right tools.You mentioned that this exhibition will highlight the struggles faced by Mi Oso Es Mi Kas, but do you think it will help shed light on the struggles of today’s young parents?I think it’s absolutely necessary. The struggles haven’t changed much. Teen mothers are still facing the same issues today. This exhibition isn’t just about remembering the past—it’s about addressing the ongoing needs of these women and their families. It’s about sending a message to society that these issues still matter and that we need to do more to support them.There is also a documentary coming out, could you give us some insight regarding the narrative of the film?The narrative of the documentary is the story of the org through the life of Elfriede Sinester, the founder of Mi Oso Es Mi Kas. She arrived in the Netherlands as an immigrant in the 1960s married with 4 children at 24, getting her bachelor's degree in her 40s and founding Mi Oso Es Mi Kas and being knighted for this work by the Queen.We invite you to join us in celebrating this legacy at the opening of the exhibition and documentary on Friday, February 7, 2025. Discover the untold stories of Mi Oso Es Mi Kas, a foundation that redefined the landscape of social and cultural support for women of color in the Netherlands. As a brand rooted in community, culture and leadership, Patta is proud to support this initiative, recognizing the impact of Mi Oso Es Mi Kas on countless lives. Join us on Friday, February 7, 2025 from 18:30 at Vijzelstraat 32, 1017 HL Amsterdam. You can register now here. If you can't make it at the opening, the exhibition is open till June 15, 2025 and the documentary will be playing at the Amsterdam Stadsarchief for a month - entrance is free.